Reality Check

We are halfway through the 90-day waiting period in which Kiki's relatives can intervene to try to obtain custody of her. During this time I have stopped dwelling on how awful it will be to lose her because it's too painful.

But nothing is certain, of course. Last weekend Billy and I took a CPR class with another foster-adopt couple who had gone through 8 foster children and had so far only been able to adopt two of them. They lost one little girl after two entire years of parenting her. In most of their cases relatives came out of the woodwork at the last moment to take custody. This frightens us.

A little over a week will be one year since Kiki came to live with us and that means we will then have legal standing and if we have to fight to keep her, we will. Ultimately we know that God has a plan for our family and whether Kiki is a temporary or permanent part of it is in His hands. That is a comfort.